When love feels like the
one thing you can’t get right

When love feels like the one thing you can’t get right

It’s time to try something different

1:1 relationship coaching to help you change your patterns and finally choose love that feels good

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Trauma-informed dating & relationship coach for

singles | couples | individuals in relationships

Love doesn’t have to be hard

When it is, a pattern is likely driving the problem

You’ve been told a lot of things about love. That it’s a lot of work. That if it hurts, it means you care. That chemistry and immediate spark are signs of something real. And that if you just try harder, you’ll finally get it right.

No wonder you’re exhausted. Over it. Ready to throw in the towel, delete the apps, or settle for chaos and crumbs. How are you supposed to hear all of that, and still believe the kind of love you want is possible?

The beliefs and patterns that got you here aren’t your fault. But continuing to date with them in the lead? That’s a choice. One you don’t have to keep making.

And when you’re ready, I’ll help you unlearn it all, so you can do love differently.

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What brought you here?

I’m heartbroken and need help moving forward

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I’m single and ready for love

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I’m in a relationship that needs support

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We’re a couple who wants to reconnect

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It’s hard to fix the problem

when you’re looking at it wrong

Most clients come in thinking the problem is them—too much, too anxious, too old.

If they could just “fix their picker,” stop self-sabotaging, or get better at boundaries, maybe love would finally work. But what’s really driving those patterns?

Usually the stuff no one ever taught them how to change—early conditioning, nervous system defaults, and old relationship templates.

If these sound like your brain after a failed date, horrible breakup, or difficult relationship, you’re in the right place:

“I keep choosing the wrong people”
“I can’t get over my ex”
“I feel unlovable (or just hard to love)”
“Dating apps feel like a numbers game I’m losing”
“I’ll never get over them”
“I’m running out of time”
“I’m scared to let someone in because I’ll just get hurt”
“I keep putting myself out there, but nothing ever works”
“We keep having the same fights and I’m so tired”
“Everyone around me is falling in love—and I feel left behind”
That’s Me, Please Help

Love Notes From Love Stories

Real words from real people who did the work

Fast forward a year, and I am now in a very happy relationship with this person, living overseas, living out a dream and happy as ever.
I was struggling to navigate what to do after I met a girl overseas who I developed strong feelings for. The situation brought me a lot of anxiety, stress, and self doubt, which also impacted other areas of my life such as work and family relationships. Nicole was incredible at making me feel heard, understood, and helping me to work through the situation with a clear head. Fast forward a year, and I am now in a very happy relationship with this person, living overseas, living out a dream and happy as ever. I would highly recommend Nicole. She goes along the journey with you, never leaves your side, and is incredibly supportive, friendly, and knowledgeable.
Her level of empathy and understanding is incredible, she is a very compassionate person who genuinely cares.
Working with Nicole has given me a better understanding of who I am and why I have attracted the type of partner that I have in the past. Her professional but personal approach has given me the clarity I needed to be able to better understand myself and how to find the right person for me. The journey has been one of enlightenment and I truly believe I would not be where I am if it wasn’t for Nicole. She is a true gem.
She gave me the courage to walk away.
Nicole's coaching helped me recognise that I was settling in my relationship and gave me the courage to walk away.
I am happier than ever & couldn’t recommend Nicole enough!
I was struggling to overcome some relationship anxiety I had been experiencing after my first serious boyfriend in my early 20’s. The anxiety had affected me quite negatively for years. I tried a couple of psychologists but I wasn’t quite getting the support I needed. I googled ‘relationship coach’ & Nicole popped up! After reading about Nicole on her website I immediately reached out. Nicole really helped me to shift my mindset and empowered me to see my value, ask for what I want & to be open to the discomfort of dating. I met my boyfriend 5 months after I began my sessions with Nicole (ending my 7 years of being single!!) & I truly believe it was all down to our sessions, I would never have been ready for someone like him without my mindset shift.
She helped me recognise the patterns in myself and guided me to shift them.
The day of my breakup I lay in bed thinking, it’s happened again… why do I keep falling into the same patterns? I emailed Nicole and from the very beginning she was so responsive and supportive. She helped me recognise the patterns in myself and guided me to shift them. What I really valued was that she was there for me every step of the dating journey — not only in the exciting moments, but also through the tougher periods. I’m now in the most loving, healthiest relationship I’ve ever had. Working with her helps you rediscover the love for yourself that you may have forgotten about — and there’s no price on that.
I would always walk away from our sessions feeling backed, confident, reassured, and like a weight off my shoulders had been lifted.
Nicole has been incredible. I have used similar services in the past and I think she brings a refreshing approach. Others felt stale, transactional, templated, very surface level. I really felt like Nicole was my teammate and friend right throughout the whole process. It was nice to have that support and that outlet as I didn’t really want to lay it out on my family and friends and I respected her view and perspective.
Nicole has given me lots of great perspectives that have helped me make good decisions.
I have been talking to coach Nicole for 3 years, she has witnessed my growth in 3 different relationships, and now I am in a very happy and healthy relationship. Talking to someone professional and trustworthy is an ongoing self-care which is the best investment in myself. Nicole is very empathetic and great at communicating. She is passionate about what she does and is genuine about helping people in their relationships and self-development. I am so glad that she is my coach. Despite the distance between Ireland and Australia, I have received the most comforting conversation with her each time before I sleep.
I genuinely think I would have pushed my healthy partner away if it wasn't for Nicole's guidance.
When I started working with Nicole I was going through a terrible break up with someone who didn't value me and wasn't healthy for me. I was in a total stale of fight and flight. Through my work with Nicole, I learned that this was a pattern of mine due to past conditioning and limiting beliefs / was carrying around about myself. She helped me go from a place of insecurity to security and in less than a year I attracted a loving partner. I didn't expect it to happen so quickly. It's such a nice feeling to feel valued and safe.
I am now in a strong, healthy relationship and I continue to work with Nicole as I value her knowledge and perspective, and just genuinely enjoy talking to her.
I booked a session with Nicole after listening to her podcast as it really resonated with me. I was struggling with dating and wanted help to understand my patterns. I have been seeing Nicole for over two years, and she has helped me through all stages of dating and relationships. I have learnt, and healed, so much about myself through working with Nicole. I particularly love how she isn't afraid to compassionately point things out to me that might be challenging to hear, as this is where the real growth happens. I highly recommend booking a session with her!
I found Nicole’s insights and coaching to be invaluable!
Her coaching in the listed categories made it a lot easier for me to navigate dating and the dating world: The female psyche, Dating in 2025, Psychology based reviews of interactions, texts and conversations – to maximise potential matches/dates, My own state of being, energy, communication style, demons, good points and bad points. Before Nicole, I was putting square pegs in round holes! Nicole rebuilt me, re-focused me and reminded me of who and what I was. I am now (due to Nicole) in a position to succeed, versus being on a dating hamster wheel!
Nicole helped me to recognize what was happening to my nervous system in those triggered moments and suggested various ways that I could calm those nerves.
I began working with Nicole back in early 2023, after reaching a traumatic point in a previous relationship. Nicole coached me through the trauma and pain that I endured throughout that relationship and unearthed the numerous wounds that I had suppressed from childhood. She provided a safe and warm space for me to share these wounds and has worked for over two years to help me overcome them. Nicole’s coaching is special and invaluable not only because she is knowledgeable, but she can empathize and relate to you during sessions,. She truly cares about her clients, and not only that, she is nearly always accessible and ready to be there. I cannot sing Nicole’s praises enough for all of the growth she’s helped me to obtain over the past two years. Speaking with her has, without a doubt, been one of the best investments I have ever made because I am now in a much healthier relationship and have more self love and confidence!
We now have a clearer understanding of why we think, act, and respond the way we do sometimes.
Nicole has done so much for us since we started working with her. She has helped us have such a different view on things and has given us a much deeper understanding and appreciation of one another. We now have a clearer understanding of why we think, act, and respond the way we do sometimes. We are so grateful for what she has done for us.
She has guided me to communicate better, set healthy boundaries, love myself and show my true self in my relationship.
Working with Nicole has been truly life-changing. Her compassionate guidance, deep insight, and non judgment approach helped me see toxic patterns I couldn’t recognise on my own. Because of this I now have a beautiful baby with my partner. If you’re needing some guidance in the relationship world I would highly recommend Nicole. She has changed my life in the most beautiful way possible.
She is genuinely exceptional.
I am in my 50s and what Nicole has done for me in three sessions alone, is more than what all my therapists before her have done in a lifetime.
Nicole was exactly what I needed! Patient, non judgemental and understanding but most of all had an approach that combined therapeutic concepts but able to offer strategies to apply these in a really practical way to move forward.
I reached out to Nicole at a time when I really felt I needed a dating coach and regular mentoring to break through self limiting beliefs and relationship patterns. I came with a good level of self awareness and had been through some former therapy but I wanted an approach that offered practical strategies with a particular focus on dating and relationships. I felt hopeful and that I had something valuable to take away from each session. The additional text support and check in messages also left you feeling a genuine care and interest in your progress - something many traditional counsellors tend not to offer. Her support has been invaluable and I highly recommend!
If you’re navigating emotional turmoil—whether healing from a breakup, facing struggles in your relationship, or simply craving more inner peace and love—I wholeheartedly recommend working with Nicole.
Working with Nicole began during one of my darkest moments—my fiancé had left me, and I felt completely lost. After a few sessions, as she took the time to truly understand me and what I was going through, that’s when the real transformation started. Nicole helped me shift from confusion and heartbreak to a place of healing and hope, gently guiding me toward a new, more compassionate perspective. She offered me more than just a listening ear—she created a compassionate, safe space where I could be raw and vulnerable without judgment. At the same time, she knew when to gently challenge my thinking patterns, helping me explore new ways of understanding myself and my emotions. Her warmth, wisdom, and thoughtful guidance can help you rediscover peace, self-acceptance, and deeper connection, both with yourself and others.
Nicole gave me the “Great Wake-Up Call” not through harshly stated insight, but rather through genuine care and guidance.
Sometimes, someone comes along in life that marks a moment, a point in time that sets your life confidently back onto a healthy path where you are certain love and happiness awaits. Nicole has been that trusted guide for me. It would be no understatement to say that I’ve been through the wringer with love and relationships. I needed someone to help me see the light, the truth and most importantly help retrain my sense of what’s healthy and what is not in terms of relationships going forward. And honestly, I just needed someone to help me see that love and happiness in a romantic partnership is possible and that we all deserve that, not the toxicity we can attract and create. Nicole gave me the “Great Wake-Up Call” not through harshly stated insight, but rather through genuine care and guidance. A little word here, a suggestion there. A thought provoking read here, a gentle push there. If you are thinking of engaging Nicole to help you find the path to healthy love, please don’t hesitate. I promise you won’t regret a moment of the journey. And by the way, have a listen to Nicole’s podcast on Spotify called “The Great Lesson”. That is life altering and so very special a listen for those of us who have been going through or are still in the wringer of unhealthy love.
Nicole made me realise that I am not broken and that nothing is actually wrong with me.
I have worked with professionals all over the world and after one session alone with Nicole she was able to help me see my patterns and realise more about myself than anyone I have worked with before her. Nicole made me realise that I am not broken and that nothing is actually wrong with me, and that instead I have the power to heal my wounds and change the things in my life that aren't serving me.
I'm so happy to be getting closer to a place where I can understand my value and have confidence in myself and where I'm headed.
Nicole's advice and what l've been able to learn from her in such a short amount of time is beyond words. I'm so happy to be getting closer to a place where I can understand my value and have confidence in myself and where I'm headed. Learning from my mistakes and past choices has been eye opening but freeing.
I now approach my relationships with a sense of purpose, self-respect and excitement!
Working with Nicole over the past three years has been transformative. Her deep understanding of the complexities of dating and relationships has assisted me to break free from unhealthy patterns that have previously held me back. She has a unique ability to make me feel seen, heard and validated and I mostly appreciate her support, and her insightful advice and guidance without judgement. Nicole's genuine and welcoming nature makes it so easy to open up and trust her. I feel safe, empowered and encouraged in every session we have together.

WHY THIS WORKS

You’re Not Broken, You’re Conditioned

It’s time we changed that

Most people show up thinking they need better dating advice. A profile “update.” A script. Communication tools. Or something quick, easy, and sexy (hello, awful social media dating tips).

But if your core patterns are still running the show, none of that sticks.

In our work together, we slow down and get honest about what’s going on underneath—so you can shift it for good.

We figure out what’s actually keeping you stuck

Unpack the patterns you picked up to stay safe or feel loved

Shift those patterns, so they stop running the show

You start showing up differently in love—clearer, calmer, more confident

It’s not always easy. But it’s always worth it. Because real love starts with who you are—not just who you’re with.

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Some tough love

About real love

01.

Your “type” isn’t just a preference, it’s a pattern. And it’s usually based on what’s familiar, not what’s right for you.

02.

The love you’re chasing might not be the love you need. Until you redefine what healthy love feels like, you’ll keep saying yes to what it isn’t.

03.

There’s nothing wrong with you, but this work takes work. Lasting love doesn’t come from trying harder, it comes from choosing differently.

About Nicole

I’ve lived it, studied it, and now I help people change it

Nothing you say will scare or shock me. I’ve been through it myself—and if I haven’t, one of my clients has. The devastatingly long single stretch. The “maybe they’re not out there” spirals. The years of doing the self-work, but still repeating the same patterns. I went on over 200 first dates, been let down more times than I can count, and spent way too long thinking love was just hard for people like me.

Eventually, I realised I couldn’t just “try harder,” I had to get to the root of what was keeping me stuck. That meant unlearning the beliefs and survival patterns I picked up throughout my childhood and retraining the nervous system responses that kept me stuck in familiar cycles. Because love doesn’t change until you do. A sexier profile photo or communication script is never enough (I wish it were that easy).

I studied what actually creates lasting change. I trained in trauma-informed coaching and Compassionate Inquiry. I built a practice that blends lived experience with science-backed psychology—and I help people stop choosing from survival mode and start building secure love from the inside out.

Today, I’m a certified coach, the host of the acclaimed podcast Love Uncensored, and eharmony Australia’s dating expert. But more importantly? I’ve helped hundreds of people around the world stop settling for the bare minimum and finally create the kind of relationship they deserve.

Oh, and I married the type of man I thought “didn’t exist.” Turns out, he was there all along (I just wasn’t ready to find him).

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With love,
Nicole

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